| nice guys *do not* finish last, but i can tell you who does. |
[Nov. 8th, 2009|11:10 am]
schwarze katze
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| | 👁 pissed off
provoked. | ] |
today, i thought of something that explains a lot. i had just gotten out of the shower, i pulled up my computer chair to check my email, and i was struck by an unusual amount of anger and bitterness. i'm not sure what triggered it, but there is something i take issue with and that i've thought about before to a lesser extent.
there's something i'd like to say to all those guys who whine and whine about not getting girlfriends because apparently they're "nice guys", and "nice guys finish last". i'm not talking about guys who go through sadness from breaking up or have occasional breakdowns from feelings of inadequacy, because that happens to most otherwise awesome people. no -- i think you know who i'm talking about, and if you don't... you're about to find out.
you know what, "nice guys"? FUCK YOU. there's nothing wrong with being nice, but there IS something wrong with people who use it as an excuse to not look at what might actually be failing them in romance. there IS something wrong with making the girl you were with look like a bitch because you cry to anyone who will listen that she didn't want a "nice guy". maybe girls aren't into you because you're a boring guy, or an arrogant guy, or a (dare i say it?) terribly unattractive guy. perhaps you're one of those types to manipulate a girl into liking you by yanking on her heartstrings and complaining about how nobody wants you 'cause you "just wanna be nice". cry moar, mmkay?
what a fucking joke. the guys who i always (seriously, always) hear this from are either boring, arrogant, generally unattractive, manipulative, or (often) a combination of those. i use the word "arrogant" because you have to be pretty full of yourself to think the only thing that could be keeping the flocks of eager girls away is your "niceness", despite any self-esteem issues you may exhibit. the guys who are actually nice eventually get over themselves, grow a backbone, and try to understand the real reasons they're not getting/maintaining meaningful relationships... and then they work on themselves, if they feel like it's a worthwhile endeavor! self-reflection is a sign of maturity, and if you just fall back on that old excuse of being "too nice"... that's pretty fucking immature. because obviously people generally like to be treated nicely, but who wants to be with someone who has nothing else going for them?
...douchebags. |
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